We danced around a bit, looking for cross-cultural references. And then she blurted out, "Our son died last year. We're Baptists, but our own church is too happy-clappy for us now. We just can't bear it anymore."
"It's okay," we said. "This is the kind of church where people don't have to be ashamed of being sad."
And then we finished typing, confident that we were right. Churches, if they want to be faithful, must avoid the temptation to deny death.